5 Easy Ways to Ditch Wedding Planning Stress
The Gramercy, New Jersey Photo by Amy Anaiz
Planning a wedding while managing your career, your relationship, and your day-to-day life? You’re not alone—and you’re definitely not doing anything wrong if it feels a little (or a lot) overwhelming. Wedding stress is something that over 75% of couples experience at some point in their wedding planning journey.
As a New Jersey and New York luxury wedding planner who’s worked with incredible power couples over the years, I’ve seen firsthand what works (and what doesn’t) when you’re trying to pull off a beautiful celebration without the support of a full planning team. Wedding planning stress is definitely a thing and our goal is planners is to lessen the blow of it, so to speak.
If you’re navigating this on your own, here are 5 ways to ease the pressure and plan with more clarity, confidence, and calm—so your wedding actually feels like a joy, not a job. Because, wedding stress, who needs it?
1. Start With the End in Mind
Before diving into color palettes or floral trends, take a moment to ask: What do we want this day to feel like? Write down 3-5 words that reflect your ideal wedding (joyful, timeless, intimate, etc.) and let that vision guide every decision. Fewer choices. More intention. Less stress.
2. Set Boundaries Around Your Time
Between meetings, travel, and life responsibilities, wedding tasks can quickly take over your calendar. Block out time each week to plan (even just an hour or two) and treat it like any other professional commitment. You don’t need to be in planning mode 24/7 to get things done.
3. Get Comfortable Saying No
You’ll get opinions—from friends, family, Pinterest, and vendors. Stay rooted in what matters to you both. It’s okay to skip traditions that don’t resonate or streamline things to keep your focus on quality over quantity. You’re not planning a performance—you’re planning a celebration of your love. Another tip, DON’T let your relatives plan your wedding. Read our blog on that here.
4. Stay Organized Like a CEO
Think of your wedding like a project—because it is. Use tools like Google Sheets, Asana, or Trello to keep timelines, budgets, and vendor notes in one place. Have a shared calendar, set weekly check-ins with your partner, and don’t be afraid to delegate specific tasks to each other based on your strengths.We streamline everything for our couples using clear timelines, digital planning tools, and regular check-ins—no endless email chains or confusing to-do lists. You get structure, transparency, and expert guidance in one place, so you’re always in the loop without being overwhelmed by the details.
5. Have a Game Day Strategy
Even if you’re planning everything yourselves, your wedding day is not the time to be in charge. Identify a trusted friend, family member, or day-of coordinator to run the show so you can be fully present. We love handling the logistics of a wedding day, find out more about it here. You deserve to walk into your wedding with peace of mind, not a clipboard.
“Simone and her team allowed us to completely enjoy our day. They thought of everything so we didn’t have to.” – Real SVE Bride
Keep This in Mind: You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
Planning a wedding can be beautiful, exciting, and yes—sometimes exhausting. If you reach a point where it starts to feel more stressful than joyful, it’s okay to pause. Take a breath. Reconnect with your “why.” And if you ever decide you need someone to take the reins, we’ll be here.
You deserve a day that’s meaningful, effortless, and entirely you.
Ready to Plan Your Dream New Jersey Wedding with Ease and Intention?
At Simone Vega Events, a New Jersey based wedding planning company, we offer full planning, design, and wedding management services designed for couples who expect a flawless day—and want to feel good every step of the way. If you’re ready to stop wedding stress and start celebrating, we’d love to talk.
